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Saturday, December 17, 2016

Blessings of Divine Light and Love




Fractal Design by Reverend Steve Waites


This is the season when cultures and faiths across the globe celebrate the coming of  Divine Light and Love to our planet.

May you each enjoy this time of awakening in the faith tradition that you honor.

December's Holiday Schedule cerebrated across our globe.

http://www.holidayscalendar.com/month/december/

Love,

The Board of Sacred Foundations

Monday, November 28, 2016

Family Support - December Asset of the Month

FAMILY SUPPORT



Family provides high levels of love and support.

This document is designed to help adults throughout Santa Clara County develop materials and activities to promote the asset of  
adult role models.

Newsletter Content

The following text may be used in organizational newsletters. Please include the attribution at the end of the article. 

The Importance of Family Support

Family support refers to the ways that parents, siblings, and extended family show love, encouragement, and comfort to  
each other families are the cornerstone of the social support system for youth. A 2011 survey of Santa Clara County youth reveals that while younger youth generally experience and are aware of family support, teenagers do so much less  
often: 88% of 4th-6th graders reported family support, while only 69% of middle- and high school students reported the asset.

Because adolescents require greater autonomy and independence than younger children, effective family support for older youth takes a different form than in earlier years; however, their need for their families is still strong. Adults are challenged to find a balance between giving youth the support they need to navigate their adolescence and the independence they need to develop as  
individuals.

In their book Parenting Teens with Love and Logic, Foster Cline, M.D. and Jim Fay discuss the transition  
from parenting younger children—who typically require  
guidance and firm limits—to parenting adolescents, who benefit most from the freedom to make their own decisions within the boundaries of safe, reasonable limits. According to Cline and Fay, effective parenting in the teenage years requires clearly communicating expectations and consequences while allowing youth to make their own decisions and “own” the results…even if their choices are not the ones that we would have preferred.

The following discussion topics can be used to open a dialogue with young people about the ways that they experience family support:
• Does your family provide support in a way that’s meaningful and easy for you to recognize? Why or why not?
• Do you and your parents treat each other with the same kindness and dignity that you’d expect from your friends?
• Does your family do things together on a regular basis? Are there any activities that you’d like to share (or be willing to share)  
with your family?

One of the most important things to realize about providing family support to older children is that they need the love and support every bit as much as younger children do, even if they claim that they don’t. Although it can be challenging to remain connected to preteens and teenagers, the benefits of doing so are immense.

This article was provided courtesy of Project Cornerstone’s  
Asset-a-Month program.
For more information, visit www.projectcornerstone.org


Activities

The activities below offer a starting point to help build and strengthen 
the asset of family support.



For families

• Make family rules together, and agree on rewards for following the rules and consequences for breaking them.
• Try to eat at least one meal together every day, and set aside at least one evening or weekend day for the family to spend together in a pastime that everyone enjoys or finds valuable. Make the effort to maintain these traditions and rituals even if your children complain about them when they’re older.
• Be sure to recognize your children’s unique talents and encourage their interests, even when they don’t match yours. For example, if they’re interested in animation, check to see if there’s a convention or film festival in your region that you can attend together.
• Look your children in the eyes when you talk to them, and give them all of your attention in conversation.
• Be empathetic about their struggles and concerns—no matter how silly or trivial their problems seem to you, they are significant  
to your children.
• Praise your children for doing a good job and point out when 
they’re being helpful.
• At least once a day, try to express that you appreciate and care  
about your children.
• Be affectionate, but respect their space; older children especially may be uncomfortable about displays of affection in front of non-family members.


For all adults

• Talk with young people about their families and point out the ways that the children are supported and loved. Similarly, when you speak with parents, take time to notice and praise their efforts at providing family support for their children.
• If you’re an employer, help your staff provide emotional support for their families through release time, sick leave, and creating a positive environment where employees don’t feel that having  
children is a liability at their job. 
• Sponsor activities and events in which the entire family can participate—for example, a picnic or carnival instead of a happy hour. 

In schools and youth programs

• Deliver a unit on families to help young people appreciate and  
respect all kinds of families.
• Schedule events that bring families together, like open houses 
or family game nights.
• If possible, schedule speakers and workshops on family life  
and associated issues.
• Be sure that your staff recognition and acknowledgement of non-traditional families in which a child’s primary caretakers may not  
be their biological parents.

Resources

• Project Cornerstone’s Take It Personally is a six-week workshop for adults that focuses on ways that parents and all adults can be more effective and intentional in building assets in young people’s lives. For information on scheduling Take It Personally at your site, contact Project Cornerstone at  
(408) 351-6482.
• “Family camps” are a great way for families to spend time together  
in a relaxing outdoor environment. Check with your city, YMCA,  
or faith community to see when family camps are offered.
• Some good books about providing meaningful support to older children include Parenting Preteens with a Purpose: Navigating the Middle Years by Kate Thomsen, M.S., C.A.S.; Why Do They Act That Way? by David Walsh, Ph.D.; How to Talk So Teens Will Listen & Listen So Teens Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish; and Parenting at the Speed of Teens, published by Search Institute.

About the Asset-a-Month Program
The goals of the Silicon Valley Asset-a-Month program are to help align adults throughout our diverse community in their efforts to promote positive youth development by fostering developmental assets. 
For more information about the Asset-a-Month program, contact  
Project Cornerstone at (408) 351-6482 or info@projectcornerstone.org



Reverend Felecia Mulvany, D.D.
President, Sacred Foundations, Inc.

revmulvany@sacredfoundations.net
www.sacredfoundations.net

877-877-4275

Thursday, November 3, 2016

Positve Cultural Identity-November Asset of the Month

POSITIVE CULTURAL IDENTITY

Young people feel comfortable with and proud of their identity, including but not limited to disabilities, ethnicity, faith/religion, family status, gender, language, and sexual orientation.

This document is designed to help adults throughout Silicon Valley develop materials and activities to promote the asset of adult role models.

Newsletter Content

The following text may be used in organizational newsletters. Please include the attribution at the end of the article.

Photograph by Reverend Steve Waites


The Importance of Positive Cultural Identity

It is important for youth to feel that they belong. Positive identity  
brings self-assurance, a sense of belonging, a positive view of personal future, and better success in school.
Developing a positive cultural identity—a critical element of  
personal identity—can be difficult for young people, especially when they may be bridging more than one culture.
The way that youth are treated in regard to their ethnicity, religion, disability, sexual orientation, or gender directly affects their ability to develop a positive personal identity. 
As adults, it’s critical that we model recognition, understanding, and celebrating all cultural identities, including the cultures to which we and/or our children do not belong.
Sharing and celebrating different cultural identities increases self-esteem and promotes cultural competence among all young people. The diversity of Silicon Valley is a benefit to our youth as they are exposed to many different cultures.

The following discussion topics* can help families talk about their  
cultural identity:
• What is our cultural background?
• What are some things that you value about our culture?
• What are some things about our culture that you would like  
other people to know?
• Do you know anyone who’s from a different culture? In what ways are your cultures similar and different? Do your cultural differences make it difficult to be friends? How can you share your cultural differences in a positive,  
nonjudgmental way?
 *Adapted from the Canadian Child Care Federation’s  
“Supporting Our Children’s Social Well-Being…
It’s a Team Effort!” workshop

This article was provided courtesy of Project Cornerstone’s Asset-a-Month program. For more information, visit www.projectcornerstone.org




Activities
The activities below provide ways to build  
 positive cultural identity in youth.







For families

• Make sure that your children learn the story of where they come  
from—including both family history and the history of their heritage
from an early age.
• Even very young children are aware of racial and cultural differences  
among people.
Address the issues of stereotypes, myths, and cultural differences in a 
positive, age appropriate manner.
• It’s normal for young people to explore different aspects of personal 
identity, including cultural identity. Children, whose parents promote a 
positive cultural identity, while allowing them the freedom to explore, 
tend to develop a healthy personal identity.
• Some elements of a child’s identity—such as sexual orientation—might not be shared in common with the rest of the family. 
Parents should make special efforts to ensure that everyone feels understood, 
respected, valued, safe, and loved within the family.



For all adults

• Serve as a mentor for youth from your culture. They will benefit from learning how to successfully maintain a positive cultural identity from someone outside their family.
• Help your children maintain a positive attitude about school, and make sure they know that you will be their advocate to resolve any problems or challenges that they encounter.
• Adults should be careful to strike a balance between celebrating the youth’s difference and including the youth as part of the group as a whole. Sometimes, focusing too much on a youth’s differences—no matter  
how good the intention—can further isolate youth from their peers.

In schools and youth programs

• Support home languages as much as possible. Children who are bilingual in their home language and English tend to maintain a positive connection with their families and cultural communities.
• All students need to be valued and appreciated for their unique characteristics regularly. Be aware of the cultural diversity in your classroom or program, and try to understand its dimensions.
• Make a personal effort to learn about the culture of the youth in your classroom or program. For example, students from cultures where children are not expected to ask questions of adults may have difficulty letting you know when they don’t understand the lesson. Help students understand the culture of your class or program without devaluing their cultures of origin.
• Young people can discover and share their cultural identity through lessons and projects that highlight their cultures and experiences while engaging them in active learning. For example, develop lessons and activities around the gifts that different cultures have given the world, and discuss how “cultural borrowing” allows everyone to thrive.
• Sometimes even the most innocent activities can be exclusionary. For example, celebration of “Crazy Hair Day” may exclude youth whose religion requires that they cover their heads. Be sure that your planned programs and activities take everyone’s culture into account.

Resources

• Project Cornerstone’s Los Dichos program provides a literature-based parent engagement curriculum and comprehensive asset-building training in schools throughout Silicon Valley. This program provides opportunities for parents from different cultures to build positive cultural identity in their own children and others from the same culture while building greater cultural competence for the entire class. 
For more information, contact Project Cornerstone at (408) 351-6482.
• Families with multiracial children can face unique challenges in helping their child develop a positive cultural identity. Many resources are available online for families to support multiracial children: 
· American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry 
· Parenting by Strengths web site 
• Families who have adopted children from other cultures may  
face unique challenges in promoting positive cultural identity. 
Several resources exist to support multicultural families, including:
· http://transracial.adoption.com/interracial/racial-cultural-identity.html, which offers parenting tips to help develop stable,  happy children with a strong sense of cultural identity.

About the Asset-a-Month Program
The goals of the Silicon Valley Asset-a-Month program are to help align adults throughout our diverse community in their efforts to promote positive youth development by fostering developmental assets. For more information about the Asset-a-Month program, contact 
Project Cornerstone at (408) 351-6482 or info@projectcornerstone.org



Reverend Felecia Mulvany, D.D.
President, Sacred Foundations, Inc.

revmulvany@sacredfoundations.net
www.sacredfoundations.net

877-877-4275




Wednesday, October 12, 2016

Corrected Time and Date: Synchronized Meditation for US Election

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Synchronized Meditation for US Election

Corrected Time and Date:
November 6, 2016 7PM NY Time

The magic is in the details! I realized that we confused many people 
with the time and date of the Worldwide Synchronized Meditation to 
bring a positive pulse to the US Presidential Election. The actual day is 
Sunday, Nov. 6th at 7PM NY Time. We forgot to take into consideration 
the time change that morning. Please add this to your calendar and 
remember that there will be plenty of information coming out soon. 
We anticipate millions of people will be involved! That's how important 
this vigil is. Get ready.


Corrected Time and Date: Synchronized Meditation for US Election

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Synchronized Meditation for US Election

Corrected Time and Date:
November 6, 2016 7PM NY Time

The magic is in the details! I realized that we confused many people 
with the time and date of the Worldwide Synchronized Meditation to 
bring a positive pulse to the US Presidential Election. The actual day is 
Sunday, Nov. 6th at 7PM NY Time. We forgot to take into consideration 
the time change that morning. Please add this to your calendar and 
remember that there will be plenty of information coming out soon. 
We anticipate millions of people will be involved! That's how important 
this vigil is. Get ready.


Corrected Time and Date: Synchronized Meditation for US Election

Interesting Image




Synchronized Meditation for US Election

Corrected Time and Date:
November 6, 2016 7PM NY Time

The magic is in the details! I realized that we confused many people 
with the time and date of the Worldwide Synchronized Meditation to 
bring a positive pulse to the US Presidential Election. The actual day is 
Sunday, Nov. 6th at 7PM NY Time. We forgot to take into consideration 
the time change that morning. Please add this to your calendar and 
remember that there will be plenty of information coming out soon. 
We anticipate millions of people will be involved! That's how important 
this vigil is. Get ready.


Tuesday, October 11, 2016

Lifting the Soul of America

Displaying


Synchronized Meditation for US Election

Nov. 5th, 2016 8PM NY Time

Join millions of people in a 15 minute meditation  
to bring a positive energy to the US Presidential 
Election.

In one month US citizens will make a decision that will impact  
everyone on the planet. It does not matter what political party  
you align with, or what country you are from. What does matter 
is that each one of us play our role in bringing positivity back to 
the most divisive election in US history. 

There will be events happening around 
the US on this day.

Most of them will culminate at 8PM NY time (5PM Pacific) when 
we are asking people to "Stop, Drop and Pray" for 15 minutes. 
There will be much more information in the next several weeks, 
BUT MARK YOUR CALENDAR NOW. We will be offering many 
ways to share information on this gathering, and how you can join us. 
We are not endorsing any particular candidate, but only a massive 
movement to infuse the election with love and light. Stay tuned.


 James Twyman
503-278-7331
JamesTwyman33@gmail.com

 


Monday, October 3, 2016

October Asset of the Month

POSITIVE FAMILY COMMUNICATION 

Young person and her or his parent(s) communicate positively, and young person is willing to seek advice and counsel from parent(s). 

This document is designed to help adults throughout Santa Clara County develop materials and activities to promote the asset of  
adult role models. 


Newsletter Content 

The following text may be used in organizational newsletters. Please include the attribution at the end of the article. 

The Importance of Positive Family Communication  

Young people who experience positive family communication experience   
higher self-esteem, decreased substance use, less anxiety and depression, and greater school engagement. However, in Santa Clara County,  
only 63% of 4th-6th grade students and 33% of 7th- 12th grade  students reported in Project Cornerstone’s 2011 survey that they and their parents communicate positively and that they are willing to seek advice from their parents. To help promote this valuable asset, October is Positive Family Communication month in Silicon Valley. 

For positive family communication to occur, all family members must be comfortable sharing their needs, wishes, and concerns in an honest and trusting environment without fear of rejection. Establishing positive communication when children are young may help keep the channel open in adolescence. No matter how old your children are,  
it’s never too late to start! 

The following questions can help your family. Encourage your child to answer these questions honestly: 
• Who do you enjoy talking with, and why? 
• What makes it easier to talk to family members, and what makes  
it more difficult?
• Which topics are easiest for you to talk about with your parents, and which are more difficult? Why? 

The communication skills that young people develop in their families help set the pattern of how they’ll communicate for the rest their lives. Teaching your children to communicate effectively  
with friends, teachers, co-workers, parents, peers, and others is a lasting legacy that parents can give to their children. 

This article was provided courtesy of Project Cornerstone’s Asset-a-Month program. For more information, visit www.projectcornerstone.org


Activities

The activities below are a starting point to help adults find ways to show youth that they are valued and appreciated. 

For families 

• Create opportunities for unstructured communications. Sometimes the best conversations occur when you’re  
side-by-side instead of face-to-face, such as when you’re driving  
or working together in the kitchen. 
• At dinnertime, instead of asking “How was your day?” play  
Worst and Best, where everyone—including parents—takes turns sharing the worst thing and the best things that  
happened to them during the day. 
• Hold regular family meetings to check in with each other and discuss family issues like holidays or chores. Make sure everyone  
has an opportunity to participate. 
• Try having each parent set an “individual date” with each child where they spend time together away from home somewhere where they can talk, like a restaurant or coffee shop. This kind of  
one-to-one conversation makes it possible for a young person to discuss issues privately with their parent’s undivided attention. 
• Listen more than you talk. 
• Positive family communication isn’t just between parents and  
children—siblings should also be encouraged and supported to communicate with each other openly and effectively. 


 For all adults 
• Model positive, respectful  
communications at all times. 
• Talk to young people about the importance of family communication. 




At school or in youth programs 
• Send home a list of “conversation starters” with information about the value of positive family communication. (See Resources at the end of this document for suggested books.) • Assign homework that requires students to talk to parents or  
other family adults. 
• Create and deliver a unit on “family” that helps youth understand different kinds of families and appreciate their own. 




Resources 






• The following books offer practical tips on creating and  
improving family communication: 
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk 
The Essential Guide to Talking with Teens 
Conversations on the Go: Clever Questions to Keep Teens  
and Grown-Ups Talking
 • The Parent Further web site covers several topics related to positive family communication, including tips on how to talk about emotions, developing listening skills, and the impact (positive and negative) of digital technologies on communication. 
For more information, visit

About the Asset-a-Month Program 

The goals of the Silicon Valley Asset-a-Month program 
are to help align adults throughout  our diverse community in their efforts to promote positive youth development by fostering developmental assets. For more information  about 
the Asset-a-Month program, contact Project Cornerstone at
(408) 351-6482 or info@projectcornerstone.org


Reverend Felecia Mulvany, D.D.
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